So, your loved one is in prison and you want to enjoy a little bit if romance with him? Well, check out this creative idea from one of my followers. Her lover decided to create a "date night." He cut out pictures of various items, what they'd eat, what they'd wear, etc. Naturally, he doesn't have much if a selection, but this is one of those times where it's truly the thought that counts.
So Lily, we'll call her that to protect her identity, and she'll understand why I chose that name, Lily's loved one is serving a life sentence in the feds. Unless the law changes, seriously, she'll never have the pleasure of living with him, unless, of course, she undergoes a sex change operation and commits a federal offense, but even true love has limitations. Still, despite knowing this, Lily, who met him in prison, has made the decision that she wants to be his, forever. She's willing to make any and all sacrifices necessary, and she's willing to endure the long distance relationship through the mail. It's not easy, but the mail does allow people to get to really know each other, so she's chosen to focus on what she has, as opposed to what she's missing put on.
Let's be no honest with each other, shall we? A long distance relationship isn't for everyone. Some of us need that physical closeness, but for those willing to give it a shot, those willing to experiment, they quickly discover that the love is no less true. Distance does not, and cannot, change true love. This isn't to say it's not difficult, because, clearly it is, but what relationship isn't? But if you're willing to invest a little time and effort, if you're willing to think outside the box, you just might find yourself in one of the most rewarding relationships of your life.
A lot of people mistakenly believe those of us in prison have nothing to offer, that were too broken and twisted to bother with, but nothing, and I mean NOTHING, could be further from the truth. Most of us want desperately to be loved, and even more desperately to love in return. We live in extreme loneliness and isolation, some if us actually crying ourselves to sleep at the realization of just how lonely we truly are. We're not perfect, far from it, but the overwhelming majority of us are more than willing to put the work in to make a relationship work from in here, and hopefully in preparation for our release because, after all, isn't this the ultimate goal?
My first thought at hearing about this was that it was sweet, but it would never work. It's just pictures cut out, mostly from a Walkenhorst's catalog, but the more I thought about it, the more I began to understand. This guy spent hours in his cell, finding the perfect pictures to craft a story behind, and Lily, bless her heart, recognized his efforts, and attempts, to be romantic. So, they now have a special routine. They send each other letters like this, and on a predetermined day and at a predetermined time, they'll open that letter, and read what their loved one has to say. It's by no means a substitute, but it does allow for a certain level of intimacy not otherwise experienced.
And if you notice, there's room for a bit of humor, too. Even through the mail, he's trying to practice social distancing by sendung her the picture of the hand sanitizer. 😆 Oh yeah, let's not forget the sexual aspect, either because, well, a woman has needs, right? He might not be there in person, but a well written sex story can steam things up in a pinch!
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